Wow,
this article is ridiculous! I found this on another blog and was kind of horrified when I read
this article. I in no way think that Chinese mother's are superior, I know that I would not like being called fat, stupid, or garbage. I don't think it has anything to do with being a "Chinese Mother" and a "Western Mother." Don't you think the self-esteem of your child is a little more important than you being able to "get away with it?" I did not get straight A's in high school, but I also know that my parents were proud of how I did. Me getting a B or even a C(in 3 cases) were okay because they knew that I was trying my best.
I'm also glad that my parents weren't drill sargents and made me practice hours at a time with piano. They let me decide when I wanted to practice and how much, if I didn't want to practice that was fine, but it definitely showed when it came time for my lesson. At the same time they did say "Linnea, you need to practice" but they never stood over me and drilled my songs I was learning.
Nor would my parents (probably) ever dream of calling me garbage, stupid, fatty, or tell me I'm inadequate in any way.
I'm extremely grateful they did let me participate in extracurriculars. extracurriculars were basically my childhood, I grew up with soccer, I loved going to Twins games, and doing other child-like things. Meanwhile, this mother never let her children go to a sleepover?! What is the worst thing they could do? Stay up late? I mean really, they were little it's not like they could go out and smoke drugs or raise hell in town. Or a school play? I was never in one, but I always loved going to them, and thought about joining drama(but frankly, the kids were just a little too weird for me.) My biggest issue is the never watch tv, or play computer games, while it's a bad habit to be in, I'm pretty much addicted to both of these, sure I can blame the fact that I grew up in the "technology age" but ultimately it's my fault I never got out and did other things when I became a teenager.
And the nonsense about how "nothing is fun until your good at it" well let me tell you, I was never super stellar at soccer but I loved it, and probably would've kept playing if I didn't start having injuries all the time. Granted things ARE more fun when your good at them but they can still be plenty fun when you're not.
Also, don't "override my preferences" it sounds like a disaster for a very pissed off teenager and a not very pleased mother/father. I guess I can't say for sure but I'm pretty sure my parents weren't really anxious about my self-esteem, yes they wanted me to have good self-esteem, but if I scored terribly on a test they would scold me and be like "WHY DIDN'T YOU STUDY MORE?" and if I got a bad grade in the class it was my fault and not the curriculum the teachers were teaching.
This lady does make some interesting points, yes the Chinese students have proven that they're "smarter" but are they really? Or is it just mothers like this one who drill there kids and not allow them to have any fun as a child? I do think that she would give up anything(within reason) for her children, as any good parent would do, but what if that thing the child wants to give up is the thing that she is forcing them to do? Then that's her fault, and she's kind of in a pickle.
But really, I think that's one of her only good points in the whole article.
So basically, I guess I'm glad I live in America with an "American" mom. I enjoyed my childhood, and do fully believe that parents need to nurture their kids into decent human beings, I think the "Chinese Mother" method is hurting more than helping her kids, then again it's a different culture I guess.
Sorry to be long-winded.
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